“Wait, Is it a night out together?” month Two FINALE: Long Distance Crushes with Elise Bauman | Autostraddle

Dearly cherished, we are collected here today to get through this thing also known as… a season finale! Yes, it really is true, the event represents the termination of the absolute smash hit that was S2 of

Hold Off, Is This A Date?

And to celebrate that closing, exactly who safer to come-on and discuss the joys and achievements of a lengthy length crush, than actor and queer individual Elise Bauman? You may know Elise from life’s wonderful queer Christmas time rom-com which come around just last year,

Under The Christmas Time Tree
,

but around these parts, this lady has another concept that is almost as vaunted: Drew’s girlfriend! Yes, you heard that right, this gleaming twosome was birthed from the fantastic queer practice: the long distance crush.

But what is it in regards to the long distance crush which therefore appealing to queers internationally? Could it be the general scarceness of like-minded queers around you? probably the ability to flirt long distance takes many of the stress down? The 3 of us go into the whole thing, AND Drew and Elise show some potentially also sexy information regarding their unique commitment!

Not to mention there is certainly a game! This week, we make Drew have fun with the online game that merely got over Twitter and Tiktok for some momentary months: “They’re a 10 but…” It really is a great time, overall!


PROGRAM RECORDS

+ Follow Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!

+
Read Drew’s meeting with Jinx Monsoon
!

+ See

Bend it Like Beckham
,

it nevertheless rocks!

+ Johnny Sibilly’s thighs are… without a doubt quite compelling!


+ will most likely Shortz is indeed the name of NYT Crossword publisher!

*the much more you know*



EPISODE


Elise

: immediately after which we got from the cellphone, following we both hopped on the phone two moments afterwards we’re like, “and so the edge is closed, our company is lawfully banned to actually go throughout the line.”


Christina

: I mean, top among certainly my favorite voice memos and or messages i acquired from Drew, i can not keep in mind which form it came in, it actually was like, “I made this plan and today the borders are closed.” Yeah.


Elise

: Yeah, it was a real second.



[theme tune performs]


Drew

: Hi, I’m Drew.


Christina

: And I Also’m Christina.


Drew

: And thanks for visiting

Wait, So Is This A Night Out Together?


Christina

:

Hold Off, Is This A Romantic Date?

is an Autostraddle podcast delivered by me personally obtaining giggles, and question this is certainly on every person’s lip area, hold off, was this a romantic date?


Drew

: We’re at the end of the next season, and I also think we resolved it, I think.


Christina

: Yeah, I think I’m only providing large finale power, like when comedies was once before a studio audience, and everybody would walk in so there was actually an hour of applause because it was like, this is the final, that’s how I’m experiencing. Though to get obvious, nobody has actually applauded myself yet, hateful. Many thanks, thank-you. Now I believe liked and used. Drew, that happen to be you?


Drew

: Oh wow, forgot about that part.


Christina

: Yeah, proper?


Drew:

Perhaps period three I’ll have the intros. I am Drew Gregory, i will be an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans woman. You know what, In my opinion if we do another season I would like to have a fun one we throw in at the conclusion.


Christina

: Ooh, one thing spicy, you intend to jazz it?


Drew

: Yeah, There isn’t something now though.


Christina

: Okay, keep them wishing even more, I think which is great.


Drew

: Yeah, yeah, yeah.


Christina

: i’m Christina Tucker, i’m additionally an author at Autostraddle, in addition to net most importantly. A podcaster, a of gay black girl, and somebody who’s feeling pretty jazzy the following with this afternoon.


Drew

: Great, I’m really happy you are jazzy and that I’m spicy, or at least I’m planning the possibility that sooner or later i’m going to be spicy.


Christina

: Yes you’re like, I’m not sure, the most important half the movie Dune, the spruce may come. Cool research, ladies, she actually is unmarried. Anyway, i actually do have a-game for all of us to tackle about this hollowed day’s all of our finale.


Drew

: Incredible.


Christina

: Here Is The classic, and also by classic After All a game title that overran the internet and TikTok for 2-3 weeks, “They Truly Are a 10, but…”


Drew

: Ah, great.


Christina

: Now Drew, i will set out some ground principles individually, because i understand you adore a follow through question.


Drew

: Great.


Christina

: once I say they are a 10, they are a 10 for you by any means that really matters for you, that could be actually, that could be mentally, this is simply individuals you’re feeling is a 10, okay?


Drew

: Okay, fine, thanks a lot.


Christina

: i actually do have no scenarios for just what else you within individual have-been undertaking inside internet dating existence, you’re simply planning to have to go along with your abdomen and determine.


Drew

: Cool.


Christina

: All right?


Drew

: Yes.


Christina

: We’re going to put where make that clear, right here we get. They may be a 10, nonetheless they clap as soon as the airplane lands.


Drew

: i decided citizens were too remarkable with this particular, in which it’s like they can be a 10 which thing means they are choose a two, seriously.


Christina

: Yes.


Drew

: therefore i’m browsing however give a fairly reasonable eight.


Christina

: Yeah, i believe that is reasonable. I think eight will be the appropriate quantity of cringe elimination for this small action. Fine, it is outstanding beginning. Okay, they’re a nine even so they never ever text you first.


Drew

: And I can’t ask follow up questions?


Christina

: No, no, no.


Drew

: therefore i cannot ask, well perform they text me personally back when we text? I might say a five.


Christina

: Yeah, maybe not texting first ever, that is rough.


Drew

: Actually ever is actually odd.


Christina

: that is harsh stuff. All right, they truly are a five nevertheless they drive you to every errand you’ve ever had to operate.


Drew

: That’s very nice, but i really could usually… If there were five, we’ll offer him a six.


Christina

: Sure, sure. But I know you adore a solamente jaunt anyway, you like an errand run.


Drew

:after all nowadays my personal girl Elise performed drive me to an errand, and I was actually really grateful, but if that was the only thing she performed we wouldn’t take a connection, which was just an extra bit nice extra.


Christina

: i do believe which is fair.


Drew

: Yeah.


Christina

: okay, these are generally a seven nonetheless they only pretend to learn work.


Drew

: understand element of that that bothers me personally is the pretend.


Christina

: Pretending, I understood it would be.


Drew

: it is not the not reading it. If they failed to read could work it really is like, I am not that, I would be a tiny bit, it is like never ever? But it’s fine, i possibly could get over it. But they rest in my opinion about this is exactly what’s weird in my opinion, to make sure thatwill drop to a three.


Christina

: Yeah, correct, appropriate. They might be a three however they get access to the criterion wardrobe.


Drew

: And carry out I have one to get?


Christina

: therefore have access, you benefit from that access, yes.


Drew

: i really could have an excellent fling with that six.


Christina

: i believe you could potentially. It absolutely was a three, but yeah, you are knocking it to a six.


Drew

: No, no, no, that is what i am saying, I’m slamming it to a six.


Christina

: Gotcha, gotcha. Everyone loves that. They can be an eight but all of their buddies are straight.


Drew

: Okay, there is some discussion about that, because i believe there clearly was a you may need assist. I think I maybe had been about opposite area of most from the Autostraddle group who asserted that it’s okay to simply have directly pals. I would like to claim that it is okay, it’s just not living I lead. All right buddies, that is going to visit a-two.


Christina

: Yeah, I’m going to need to go along with you on that one, I would only believe it is only a little troubling, confusing.


Drew

: All direct buddies?


Christina

: Yeah.


Drew

: if they are a new comer to queerness and are wanting to meet more queer men and women, which is diverse from if they’re an existing period queer who’s want, you know what? I love getting the only lesbian in my own friend number of direct individuals.


Christina

: Yeah, i’d feel the same manner when it was a Black individual that was like, “There isn’t any Black pals,” I would personally resemble, “what’s happening there?” Internally.


Drew

: we aren’t in a network sitcom, we can not have a token person.


Christina

: You don’t need to be the token, you don’t need to do that to your self. Fine, we’ve three more. These are generally a seven but they spend all their own leisure time in the gym, constantly weight lifting down and up. I don’t know what folks would at the gym.


Drew

: their time. I guess it all depends about what matters as free time. I’ll state a five.


Christina

: Yeah.


Drew

: I’ll bump them all the way down two.


Christina

: Bump them down.


Drew

: but that is okay. I assume it all depends largely for my situation, that I’m not inquiring a follow concern, i am staying with five, however it is dependent in my experience what counts as time.


Christina

: Yes.


Drew

: are we able to enjoy motion pictures together, or venture out for eating, usually time? Is not operate time free-time, or is it just like whenever we lack alternative activities?


Christina

: we notice you, I hear you.


Drew

: But I’ll stick with five.


Christina

: fine. They’re six, however their mom is sexier than they’ve been.


Drew

: Oh, I am not sure to move up or down.


Christina

: i understand, appropriate?


Drew

: I really don’t believe i really could actually date some one for their… It is like easily’m perhaps not drawn to some body to start with, I’m probably not will be internet dating them.


Christina

: Correct.


Drew

: I am not probably going to be love, really, they were able to change into their hot mother. I believe I’d declare that they truly are nonetheless a six, I’m merely likely to maybe not refer to them as and that I’m likely to call their unique mommy.


Christina

: Yeah, personally i think want it’s like you remain the same, but possibly I hang out to you slightly more than I would personally in an effort-


Drew

: that is a beneficial point.


Christina

: getting some mom time. Really don’t consider you transform.


Drew

: used to do something actually terrible that I still believe defectively pertaining to, which is that somebody asked myself away, which ended up being once I was at school, and I also had not been interested, therefore I was obvious about this, I became clear I happened to ben’t curious. However she wanted to end up being friends, and that I could tell that she said she planned to end up being buddies it ended up being coming from destination-


Christina

: She had been wanting.


Drew

: Yeah. But the thing is every one of the woman buddies were truly hot and cool, and so I did always been the woman pal to be able to hang out with her friends. I didn’t sit about my purposes normally, it still was not the nicest thing I did as a 20 yr old.


Christina

: What i’m saying is sadly it really reminds me of the episode of

Intercourse additionally the City

in which Carrie’s dating, It’s my opinion it is Justin Theroux, and he sucks, but his family rocks, and she is like, I am able to repeat this for some. I’m like, yeah, positively, exactly who cannot.


Drew

: Carrie was not attempting to attach along with his household, which is the huge difference, you know very well what? It really is good, all of us are great.


Christina

: A hookup can look like everything, i am always stating that.


Drew

: that is a truly fantastic point.


Christina

: the final any, is actually a three but has a coastline household.


Drew

: i am going to state an annoying phrase, but we went to NYU.


Christina

: Horrible to state.


Drew

: Something that sucks about me, which this might be planning sound like a very humble boast, since it is actually probably a great personality attribute, it sucks as an individual going through the world. We visited a college which is filled up with wealthy those that have a variety of amazing coastline homes, and all of these other things, and that I merely turned into pals with folks have been there on scholarships. Not only, but primarily, we surely, I didn’t socialize with people who’d coastline residences.


Christina

: You didn’t make use of.


Drew

: Yeah, therefore I think if they’re a three even so they have a beach residence, they’re most likely a two. The simple fact… I don’t know.


Christina

: Yeah, you merely are unable to generate that leap to work well with the ill coastline residence moment.


Drew

: No, it sucks. Exactly what i am actually wishing is my friends who happen to be pretty down to earth, good men and women, more and more ones are simply attending continue to have that brand-new cash and then get coastline houses, then i’m going to be able to spend time using my great pals and become at a beach house. This is the fantasy in which I could get the beach house.


Christina

: That’s the fantasy after the afternoon, its brand new money and a beach residence, that is all we are looking for. You heard it right here initial folks.


Drew

: I love brand-new cash.


Christina

: Love brand-new cash.


Drew

: Love brand-new cash. Yeah, that has been a delight. I would actually, I would really been wanting to play that online game because it was something on TikTok, therefore many thanks for making my personal aspirations come true.


Christina

: I thought it will be an enjoyable anyone to do, plus it was extremely enjoyable to create them.


Drew

: Well, should we move on to our very own main portion in the few days, which will be falling for people who live in some other metropolitan areas. Basically distinct from long distance interactions, because long-distance interactions will start really into a connection, they’re able to keep on into a commitment, this is the need that queer people have to examine their unique destination which they live and get, no, I am not probably flirt with your individuals, i will continue instagram.com in order to find somebody who lives very miles away. Therefore we have actually a, i understand we usually state a tremendously special guest, however for me this really is a very special guest. Want to present yourself?


Elise

: I would personally like to introduce my self. Have always been we the unique visitor?


Drew

: you might be, yes.


Christina

: Baby, of course.


Elise

: Great, wow, incredible. I’m Elise Bauman, I’m an actor, I’m a queer person, and I’m here now because I’m sleeping with one of the hosts.


Christina

: imagine which one?


Elise

: Yeah, the remainder podcast is only the market attempting decipher which variety I’m resting with. I really like that, it really is like a murder mystery but-


Christina

: There’s no strategy to know.


Elise

: there is no strategy to understand. Yeah, performs this generate myself a nepotism baby? Is how the business works.


Christina

: Yes, that’s the way the business works, babe.


Elise

: cool, good.


Christina

: this might be it.


Elise

: Wow, perhaps i really could get a career using this.


Christina

: Fingers crossed individually.


Elise

: Nepo child to career, wow, fantastic. I have usually desired to end up being a nepo infant.


Christina

: i am therefore glad.


Drew

: Yeah, I happened to be merely likely to point out that for those who do not know, well now I am ruining the murder puzzle of it all, but Elise and I also have a commitment, and performed start dating throughout pandemic, and Elise resides in Toronto, and that I live-in L. A., that are indeed various places, and are usually indeed in almost any countries.


Elise

: they’re without a doubt, they are undoubtedly.


Christina

: And Drew, not to say that you went against your own abdomen, but i really do feel like you will be usually somebody who states, the reason why work with a long distance time? You can find folks listed here i could date, how come this to yourself? You are sure that it’s going to be hard, you are sure that it’s going to be a challenge, why do this? Yet here you are.


Drew

: See, that’s interesting, because I believe like i usually enjoyed having a little of both, i simply believe i did not grab the long distance people perhaps since really.


Christina

: possibly that’s it, yeah.


Drew

: But i loved a lengthy range flirt.


Christina

: Genuine.


Drew

: therefore i believe this merely held going. Once we started-


Elise

: and so the response, Drew, was not that I found myself merely irresistible also it was actually private for me, and this ended up being extremely specific in my experience that I became merely incredibly irresistible so that you only broke all of your guidelines and you also said, “i need to have that certain.”


Drew

: What i’m saying is truly kind of the clear answer in a longer feeling. In the same manner that it just held occurring. Then our very own buddys from the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, just who we regularly accept, as some people may already know, I would often be like, I would end up being trying to date folks during pandemic in L. A. plus the surrounding aspects of Los Angeles. And then they’d generate enjoyable of me because i might occasionally just be love, “after all, I could only attempt to date Elise Bauman.” I became constantly, “i am talking about, {this person|this i